Many people on the social networking sites and blogs are going IN ( understatement ) on the news of  The Bryant’s divorce.  The alleged divorce settlement amount to the tune of 75 million awarded to Vanessa Bryant soon-to-be former wife of NBA Laker’s Superstar Kobe Bryant has people feeling some kind of way. Divorce is never easy, especially with children involved.  The Bryants have two daughters and a decade of memories.  To the outside world many feel the amount allegedly given to Vanessa is not deserved.  Not many are taking into account the children and the LIFESTYLE they are accustomed to being in.

Though it may sound incredulous to some, this is pretty normal for those who have ‘wealth’ of this magnitude.  When you take into account Kobe Bryant’s position at the time of marrying Vanessa at a young age, Kobe was a ‘sure thing’ to be a wealthy man in the long term as long as he stayed healthy. Kobe chose not to have a Pre-Nup be  a part of his marriage.  While many may judge, it was his choice.  Take into the accounts of vicious remarks online about Vanessa, about Kobe, even Drake with all his issues of putting it on the line with women ‘crush style’  giving his two cents on a verse from ‘Stay Scheming about the Bryants – yea Divorce they have no idea how deep it is.

Divorce details were worked out according to sources before the divorce went public. With all the bickering we see from others in the past and present going through divorces for alleged infidelity ‘The Bryant’s managed to  handle things out of the public eye. The only ‘Juicy’ details are coming from people’s opinions right now. Unless either comes forward, it’s been a classy ending to what is a painful reality.  For whatever anyone feels the need to go in on both Kobe and Vanessa, it is the hope the children come out okay through all of this.

NEW BEGINNINGS

No one really knows the true NET WORTH of someone if they play it smart. Sometimes all of your assets may not be known.  Cheers some say to the one who has this kind of fortitude to make it happen.  This could be the case of Kobe Bryant.  If it is, he wouldn’t be the first of Powerful Men to accomplish such scenario.  I’ve known women who kept assets ‘safe’ within decades of their marriage.  Once the marriage ended, they were in classic fashion ‘Sitting Pretty’.

True story:  A cousin of mine lived in California with her husband.  She was an older cousin 50 years old about twenty-five years ago, I was a teenager at the time.  During a visit home to the South to spend time with her aunt who at the time was 80 we all were taking in the Summer Southern sun  on a Summer evening talking about many things.  My cousin spoke on her recent divorce. Married for 30 years, her husband was a controlling man. He didn’t like for her to take trips to Philadelphia to see her own mother too long, calling constantly even when she would go grocery shopping. Always asking how much she loved him, even jealous of the time she spent with their children and grandchildren.   He took his actions as as love, she took it as smothering.  Their issues were all mental torment, not physical which is no lesser disturbing.

With their children grown, having grand-children, home paid for, cars paid for it was time to make a move. Before divorcing him, my cousin acquired her own wealth through various sources.  In California it was not against the law to take half out of your accounts before divorce.  My cousin took half of the Gold Bonds they acquired over decades, half  out of  two of  several banking accounts they shared and both contributed to.  Making her way to Philly every year to see her mother, that year divorce papers were served to her husband while she was on the east coast.

Extending her trip on the advice of her lawyers, not required to be in court as the divorce became final, my cousin headed South to her aunt.  She stayed on the east coast for four months as she made preparations to start a new life. According to my cousin at the time all that should took really would not set him back.  She wanted no alimony just enough of what they acquired together to continue to live in the lifestyle she was accustomed to.

I do have a feeling Kobe will be ‘Sitting Handsomely’ unbeknownst to  any of us. I have no doubt he did not secure enough to be comfortable and do the right thing by his daughters and Vanessa. Wealth, depending on who you are, 75 million may be a breeze.  Let no stone go upturned, and I will leave it at that.Vanessa could now venture out to find herself even more.  She married young, basically within the realms of Kobe Bryant’s world, wife, mother.  This is a great moment on the ‘Sunny Side of things’ to venture into business for herself, charity work and more.  For Kobe this is a time to reflect and find himself more.   Though people don’t want to face it, a divorce is not the end of your life.  When you can remain amicable this speaks volumes on your character.

LOVE CHANGES

Many of us go into relationships with a positive mindset.  At least that is the hope.  Some have hidden agendas, others not at all.  Expectations of a happily ever after is always on the minds of many couples.  As time goes on, people change, seasons change.  Not everyone weathers the storms, nor should one have to weather storms constantly.  Better to divorce than to be with someone who may not want to be with you.  It is called life. Wishing the best for these two as the divorce is finalized.  To gloat on any ending of marriage one needs to ask themselves… Why is that?  Now is the time to get out of others issues and possibly examine your own.

you’ve been deja vu’d,

BEBE